I knew something was missing from my life, I just didn’t know what.
It made no sense. I’d achieved more than even I had thought possible. I had a fantastic salary, the car I’d always dreamed of, my own flat in a highly desirable location and I was in amazing shape. What more could a girl ask for?
By rights I should have been on top of the world, fulfilled and loving life.
And yet, something wasn’t right. Although my life looked full on the outside, it felt empty on the inside.
Perhaps you can relate?
Something had to change, I just didn’t know what. What’s more, I felt guilty even thinking there must be more to life let alone saying it out loud. Maybe I should just suck it up and be grateful.
Fortunately the Universe doesn’t require us to say things out loud and so what I needed was sent to me in the form of Bronnie Ware’s wonderful book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”
Sounds cheerful, right?
Admittedly it’s not the most lighthearted of subjects but this book led me to discover what was missing from my life and was the start of what has been a true journey of self discovery.
You see, what was missing from my life was me, the real me. Yikes!
I’d ticked all the boxes that were supposed to lead to happiness, fulfilment and success, but I was blind to the things that truly did.
Rather than trusting that following what I was passionate about and filling my life with things that brought me joy was the key to fulfilment, I’d become caught up in what would make me the most money so I could get the car, the house, the shoes, and be seen as “successful”. Surely that was the path to happiness?
I think you know where this is going.
I was extremely successful by most people’s standards, but I wasn’t most people and I was unfulfilled.
You see, when we aren’t living a life that’s true to who we really are, we’ll feel a misalignment and it will manifest in us asking ourselves searching, existential questions until we actively acknowledge it.
If you find yourself asking “surely there must be more to life than this?” it’s more than likely because, for you, there is.
You have more to give and, as a result, more to get from life. You’ve yet to fully realise your talents and gifts and put them to good use in the world.
Acknowledging and answering these questions isn’t self indulgent or selfish, it’s essential to you living as the fullest expression of who you truly are, it’s essential to you living a life that feels as full on the inside as it looks on the outside. That’s what we were all put here to do after all.
Once we’re living in alignment with our true selves, then and only then will that feeling that something’s missing diminish.
It may never disappear completely, and that’s OK. Rather than seeing it as a sign that something’s wrong, see it as a sign that as an ever expanding being in an ever expanding Universe, there will always be another level to explore. That is, if you have the courage.
Maybe it’s time for an entirely new direction, maybe it’s just time to take things up a level, to expect more from yourself and from life.
For me, I’d been living inauthentically, and needed to get back in touch with my true self in order to feel fulfilled and to embody my greatness (if I do say so myself). I was never meant to blend in, I was meant to stand out.
For you it may be something different.
If you can relate to any of what I’ve said and feel like you need some guidance to figure out your true path to fulfilment, let’s talk.
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Fulfilment awaits if you have the courage to claim it.
With Love and Devotion Xx