Work life balance.
The hot topic of today.
All the talk is that people are sacrificing their career growth and salaries in order to maintain better work life balance.
Can you relate?
I certainly can.
I realised a few years ago that, not only was I not prepared to sacrifice my passions in order to do a job I didn’t love, but that the 9 to 5 life as a whole was not for me. I decided to do something about it.
Many don’t. Why is this?
I have a few ideas about why this has become such an issue.
1. We’re not deliberate and discerning enough about choosing the work we do. What I mean is that we choose a career path without first figuring out whether it fits with our values and how we want to live. Picking a career without doing this is kind of like buying a car without considering the total cost of ownership (yes, I was that girl whose first, and second, and third car was an Alfa Romeo. Clearly I learn by repetition).
Of course, in order to do this we need to know what our values are in the first place and know how we want to live.
For some a career might take over their life but it feeds their passion, which is OK with them. For others, they just want to do a good job and then go home at a reasonable time. For others, something in between.
Not things many of us tend to consider when we’re in our teens or early twenties. Figuring this out also takes a bit of trial and error, which means that once we realise we’ve made an error, we’ve got to be willing to make a change. Or live in misery. Either way!
Many of us choose to stick with certain misery instead of taking a chance on uncertain happiness.
Which leads me onto my next point…
2. We don’t seem to realise that we do have a choice. We’re so caught up in following the traditional path, ticking the proverbial boxes that we lose sight of the fact that we’re living OUR life, not everybody else’s. What works for what’s her (or his) name next door might not work for you, in fact it probably won’t. Why should it?
Times have changed. We don’t have to live cookie cutter lives anymore.
3. We’re too accepting of the myth of exhaustion as a status symbol. Until we collectively call bullsh*t on the demands that are placed on us and our acceptance of them, this will not change. It’s a complex issue but we’ve got to start asking the questions of corporations and ourselves and believe that there’s another way.
We’ve got to start asking why jobs that are more than one person can feasibly manage are being created? Surely in this age of technology this isn’t necessary?
4. If I had a pound for every person who told me how brave I was when I left my corporate comfort blanket behind, well, I could be comfortably retired. OK, so maybe not retired, but I could have bought myself a share in a nice pair of shoes.
Fear. One of the key causes of work life balance issues. Fear of the consequences of saying “this is not OK for me” to the person paying your salary. Fear of asking for what we want. Fear of the uncertainty that comes with change of any kind.
I could go on, but I won’t. That’ll do for now!
You may have guessed, I’m pretty passionate about changing this.
My mission is to help people create and live lives they love every day, not just when they’re on holiday.
If you’ve found yourself waking up for too many days in a row not relishing the day ahead, let’s talk. Click here to get in touch and organise a free discovery call for us to see if working together might be start of your bid for freedom.
Much love Xx